Saturday, February 12, 2005

chase moi je te fie, fie moi je te chase
There's an old Eurythmics song from the '80s called Sweet Dreams that goes like this...


Sweet dreams are made of this
Who am I to disagree?
I travel the world
And the seven seas
Everybody's looking for something

Some of them want to use you
Some of them want to get used by you
Some of them want to abuse you
Some of them want to be abused

Hold your head up
Keep your head up
Movin' on


There aren't a lot of words in the song, but there's a lot of truth. It seems to be a hot topic at the moment, since both NML and Chinkel have mentioned such things recently, not to mention the film Closer being on at the cinema. And then there's all the people around here doing pretty much exactly the same.

I don't know what it is about us humans but we seem to be drawn to things and situations that cause us pain. We always want only what we can't have. When someone is treating us badly it makes us run more towards them, with all the intelligence of flies buzzing towards the beautiful blue light shining its deadly rays above the burger grill, ready to get zapped. And not just once, but again and again.

NML's post above discusses 'Bastard Syndrome', women who go for bastards. But the opposite exists too - 'Bitch Syndrome', to steal her terminology. I could write a whole essay on the subject, but here's a vast simplification: If girls with Bastard Syndrome are always sleeping with certain bastard men in the vain hope of being cared for by them, then guys with Bitch Syndrome are always caring for certain women who they hope in vain to sleep with. Those bastards and bitches always know how to keep the right level of hope burning to keep their victims coming back.

Does anybody have any examples of a relationship without manipulation, judgement or self abuse, but with mutual openness, flexibility towards change, playful mischievousness, humour, and of course, tons of kinky sex?

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